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Thursday, 3 December 2020

Last day of WW virtuals

Thursday 3rd December 2020
Your biggest commitment must always be to yourself.


4am and been up half hour, not moms fault, she's still asleep, I must just be getting used to having less sleep, or maybe its the anticipation of knowing today is the last day I do any virtual workshops for WW, that feels weird to type! I don't work on a Friday anyway so other than sorting out a few things that'll be me done tomorrow. 

Yesterday was a busy one, signed up another satisfied UW customer on the morning, had the nurse in for mom, treated me and my sister to KFC for her 25th Wedding anniversary, I know it should be silver but I went in a silver car which actually wouldn't start because of being left on the driveway again, my jumpstart kit didn't work either so Green Flag came to the rescue, the are good, only took them half hour to get to me. 

Mom was full on yesterday, never stopped yabbering lol, loudly too, shouting at the tele, in the end I had to put my crochet away because I couldn't concentrate, bless her, it distracted her a little from her pain I guess which is always worse on days it's been redressed. 

I know we still can't do anything because of covid but talking to people the last few days and making plans to catch up when we can is showing me other upsides to leaving WW, if I haven't got to ask my sister to sit constantly with mom whilst I work, she'll be able to do it whilst I go out for a catch up with some friends. 

I want to get us all together for a coffee morning as I'm not having a leaving do as such or getting to hug people in person, yes it's very, very, different but then everything this year has been hasn't it.  

I'm aim for a more healthier day than KFC today, Alfie helped me eat mine though bless him, I'm going to have cod and lots of delicious veggies mmm, yeah perfect.  

But for now I'm going to spend an hour with my crochet before she wakes up, I haven't done day 2 of the advent calender blanket because of the distraction and I had to keep pulling it back!  

Here's to a great day, hope to see some of you on zoom, here's my link if you want to nip on and say hello https://weightwatchers.zoom.us/j/91548858636 

Mwah, luv ya

Love me xx




Wednesday, 2 December 2020

It was the best job in the world!

Wednesday 2nd December 2020
Let's just be who we really are. 


I am unapologetically myself and I have my Weight Watcher members to thank for that!  When I became a leader back in 2004, on that first night at the end of my training, I remember being so 'professional' because I so desparate to 'pass out' as it was called then, to make it through my final assessment and I was thrilled when Gerry said at the end of the meeting, well done you're now officially a Weight Watchers Leader!  Over time, I let the official persona of myself be replaced by ME, little glimpses of the real me started to break through and it seemed that members quite liked her, eventually my work me and my every day that family and friends saw became the same - the only difference being the none work version has tourettes! 

I think we all have different versions of ourselves that different people get to see, I'd spent the previous ten years trying to fit in with a work group and feeling completely out of my depth, I've since heard the term imposter syndrome and I think I was suffering from that, but not with Weight Watchers, I loved what I was doing and saw I was making a difference.  

If you haven't already seen my post on Facebook I am leaving at the end of the week, if you read this blog regularly you'll know I'm tired, actually I'm exhausted and I can't continue to give my members the attention they deserve whilst looking after my mom so it's time to time to focus on my mom and say goodbye to my meetings.  I'll miss everyone so much but I'll still stay in touch through my Happy Owls group which isn't about weight loss, it's about community and friendship, if you're one of my blogger friends and you're not already in that group, please feel free to join, send me a message to tell me who you are and I'll add you x

I've had so many wonderful comments on my post, they've filled me with love, made me think I'm actually quite good at what I do and I'm not saying never again, I love supporting people.  I'm saying not for now, mom needs me more right now although she's doing my head in this morning lol, she's talking to the weather man and helping him with the forecast which isn't helping me think what I'm typing, plus she's had me up most of the night, I ended up snoozing on the settee, bloody tired this morning I am.  

I might not be a WW coach after Friday but I'm still here to blog, to support people in my group or chat, I'm gonna stay in touch virtually with those I've met along the way, zoom works for friendships and get togethers too, so I'll be using that for a catch up, or I'll go insane with just my mom for company!

Not having to go out to work means I'll be able to use some of that time to actually have a life, my sister can sit with my mom whilst I go for a walk with a friend or meet up for a coffee (when we're not stuck in Tier 3!), I'll basically be able to have a bit of a life again.  Also when all this  covid is under control I'd love to arrange a coffee morning or two to see all my members and say a proper goodbye, we can raise some money for charity at the same time!  

I have so many things I want to say but I'm just full of so many emotions, but I'm not finishing blogging so I can type about it as and when, but for today, I'm going to just sit with my feelings and change the subject for a minute. 

I've started my advent calender and it's a crochet one, I suggested my crochet pals join me on the CAL (crochet along) on Facebook  you're more than welcome to join in too, FREE PATTERN: Advent CAL-endar Day 1 - Crochet Society that's where you'll find the info and you can use any yarn you have spare.  I've not finished day one yet - oops, but I will. It's a busy weekfor me with leaving WW but still doing both that and UW together, at least I'll still be working after Friday but from home which will work so much better for mom, I can do it as and when, if moms having bad days I won't work, it'll take the pressure off me which is what I need.  So yeah, if you want to return the love and help I've given you over the years, get in touch and let me give you a free MOT on your bills and show you what it's all about, no pressure, no obligation, just me showing you the savings you can make and a choice. This is my phone number for you to store so we can stay in touch 07739 968 678, my email is bev_ww@yahoo.co.uk and the WW in my email wasn't because of Weight Watchers you know, I had it before, it was from weekends away I used to organise for friends and stood for witches and wankers!

I'll end it there, I'm gonna have an hour doing a bit of crochet before I get started on my day. 

Mwah, luv ya 


Love me xx

 


Tuesday, 1 December 2020

Stop giving yourself excuses!

Tuesday 1st December 2020 
Make it a December to remember


I had a busy day yesterday on the phone doing what I love to do the most, the thing that makes my heart sing, what I believe is my purpose and that is helping people and making a difference to their lives.  I love that feeling, that buzz, that high when I have made a difference to someone elses life, there's nothing quite like it you know.  I've done it for the last 16 years at a WW coach, I've also done it when I've managed to rally my members and friends to help me raise lots of money for various charies and I'm doing it now by helping people save money on their bills but also by supporting people on their first calls so they can make money.  Yep it's the best feeling!

It was a late night last night, oh and Alfie was a little so and so, it was after midnight when I finally settled him, it's the foxes he knows are there I think, but I slept till 5.55 woo hoo!   Another busy day today but all being done from the house thankfully and I can really see the difference with mom, she did have a moment last night but my sister came round for an hour which made a difference.

Now I have spent years telling people they are BeYOUtiful as they are, they are good enough, they have nothing to prove to anyone and to focus on being healthy and happy and then because they're taking care of themselves, weight loss usually becomes the side effect.   I might have been misunderstood a little at times, even by myself and used this mentality as an excuse to think 'ah sod it then, if I'm good enough as I am, I don't need to lose any weight!' BACK UP that's not what I said, nor what I meant and I think a few of us might be due a dose of self-accountability, yes we are BeYOUtiful, capable, amazing individuals and don't you ever, ever forget that, your weight does not define you - you are wonderful, however....  

It's time to realise that anything that incredible needs taking care of!  Let's stop using the excuse of self love, or it doesn't matter as an excuse not to take care of ourselves.  It's okay to skip a workout if you're exhausted and need to rest, that's self care, it's not okay to use that excuse every single day!  It's okay to treat yourself to a nice new top for Christmas, it's not okay to say 'oh I've had a horrid year, I'm going to fill my wardrobe up with loads of new clothes', when you're skint and you end up in debt.  Deciding you're gonna eat a packet of biscuits or a bar of chocolate even though you're already full and it'll mean you're gonna feel dreadful afterwards, we need to stop doing this don't we.  Yes we can over induldge at Christmas, but it's not Christmas yet, it's the first of December. 

How about we use December to get the balance on self love and self care, to work out the correct definition and to start working on the masterpiece that is you!  After all works of art take time, choose to turn yourself into the best version of you and not a downgraded version of yourself. 

I'm guilty of it, I'm not gonna lie and little by little over the last few years, one bad decision here and there has taken me back to my start weight, well actually 4lb heavier, so I'm not judging you at all.  This could almost be me writing a letter to myself! 

Self love / self care it's not always about what you want, it's about doing what you need!  Yes it might include a nice massage or a bubble bath (ooo I've not had one of those in a while!) but it's also about choosing every day to do what's best for you!  Moving your body, eating your greens, watching your portion sizes, planning to eat oily fish or veggie meals a couple of times a week.  It's also making those appointments for check ups when we can, I've not had a check up at the dentist this year, I so need one.  It's about staying on top of your finances and not burying your head in the sand, switching off from technology and investing time in your relationships. 

Let's stop settling, comfort zones are exactly that but when you start stepping out of them, you may start to feel uncomfortable but that's because  you're going to change and grow, you've never been the version of yourself you're aiming for, but you'll love this person when you get there, you'll have more enthusiasm, more energy, you'll feel great - honest and resisting that packet of biscuits will be so worth it!

Today, I'm going to have a word with myself, that buzz, that high, that feeling of satisfaction I get from helping others that I talked about at the start of this blog, I'm going to start looking at getting the same buzz from helping myself and taking care of me!  Wanna join me?  Shall we have a few weeks before Christmas of healthy self care?

You in? 

Mwah, luv ya 


Love me 









Monday, 30 November 2020

Is your mind bullying your body?

Monday 30th November 2020


Well it may only be around 3am, but I have managed 6 solid hours sleep - woo hoo, on this occassion it wasn't mom who woke me, she's still asleep upstairs, nice though having an hour or so to myself quietly.  Sleep is so important but I am functioning on less lately thankfully, I guess it's because being in lockdown, I'm not doing some of the things that would tire me, like loading and unloading my car.  

Last day of November, one more month of the year left, a life changing year for most of us isn't it, even those that have still gone to work as normally, things have still changed for them.  On the virtual zoom yesterday morning, one lady told us how she had been working from home and the nature of her work was making that extremely difficult as she had children at home, you just don't realise everyone has their own complications.  

After what was a wonderful zoom call, I had a Utility Warehouse call with a new partner who I'm supporting and she helped save a relative an incredible £936 a year!  That's crazy money, it's a holiday isn't it, she also got a sim card for her granddaughters tablet for Christmas in that!  She loved that not only had we saved her money, she was going to save hundreds of pounds more over the year by using the cashback card and she hasn't got to do anything as UW do all the switching and contacting the other suppliers.  

The rest of the day mom and I enjoyed watching The Christmas Chronicles 1 & 2 on Netflix, mom enjoyed the first one more, she got distracted when the second on started, but she had a pretty good day all round, she likes me being here, she loves Anne coming for an hour in the morning.  She's always better when we don't disrupt her evening.  

Listening to some members yesterday, it was evident it's all about what's going on in the mind, but I reminded them I've always been about being Healthy & Happy, looking at a few familiar faces, I could see those who were eating healthily were also looking happier, those that were struggling or that had fell off the weight loss wagon looked a little tired, so how about we do something about that!  If you're doing well, fantastic - keep going, if you're struggling, been having a tough time, let's make today the first day of change, let's start taking care of our mind as well as our body!  

Let's try a different approach, see if that helps ay?  There's nothing worse than being offered something delicious to eat and saying, 'oh I can't, I'm on a diet', or 'I'd love one but I'm so fat' or something along those lines, you might not be saying it out loud even, you might be thinking it!  These thoughts are strong, they take control and bring us down, they really do.  

How about instead we start saying things like, 'No thanks, I'm not hungry', 'I'm full thanks', or better still try 'I don't eat that!'  The brain is truly powerful, when I decided to become a vegan, for 8 years I just used to say, 'I don't eat that' and I wasn't questioned (well occassionally I was) but I didn't question myself either, I just made that decision!  Let's change the way we talk to ourselves and others about food.   

How about you stop thinking about how you're missing out on burgers, fries and cakes and instead start thinking about how you're missing out on high cholesterol, diabetes and sugar spikes, followed by mood and energy plummets!  If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change! 

Yeah, let's stop letting our mind bully our body into emotionally eating, or stress eating, or pandemic eating, whichever reason it's doing it - let's put a stop to it on the last day of November, we've got Christmas coming and we will most likely over indulge, but let's enjoy doing it and do it for the right reasons, not because we're miserable or exhausted!

Let's use food more as fuel rather than therapy, still make it delicious of course but think of how to make it healthier too.  I'm not expecting you to become one of those that says and thinks, 'my body is a shrine' and never eats anything full of calories, but to do it with some balance and actually taste some of the so called 'naughty' food and actually realise it ain't all that!  I've had burger and chocolate this week and the tastiest thing I've eaten was Marlies veggie kofta, it was a little warm for me, I won't lie but the rice cooled it down.


Here's this weeks menu and you can find out more on her page, Marlie's Menu | Facebook I am going to point it all this morning for her so don't worry, I'll get it done asap. 


But for now I'm gonna go have me a cuppa and a bit of quiet time.  I've got a busy morning, 3 calls for UW, but first I'm going to do a healthy shop because my body would like to not have heartburn this week!

What you gonna do?

Mwah, luv ya


Love me xx


Sunday, 29 November 2020

Spinning plates?

Sunday 29th November 2020
Recharge yourself as much as you recharge your phone!


I tried to turn off yesterday, it's not easy at the moment, but I did manage it long enough to watch the movie Last Christmas, my head is so distracted right now, even when I was chatting with my friends on Zoom yesterday morning, I kept missing bits of the conversation because my thoughts went somewhere else, or I heard my mom downstairs trying to open the front door so my mind was there then.  I need to work at being in the now more, to stop trying to do everything at once, basically like my laptop - I have way too many taps open!  I need to close some tabs knowing I can reopen them when necessary, they don't need to stay open constantly.  

It's like spinning plates isn't it!  Do you feel like that, you're trying to spin all those plates in your life, I was talking to my bestie yesterday as she was driving home from work and she's working so hard right now (please stop ordering so much unnecessary crap online lol - she's a postie) that all she does is work, eat and sleep!  That's no life is it, but how many of us are doing the same! 

I found myself yesterday thinking, I need to get back to doing some meditation, but then I started thinking that's another bloody plate though isn't it - something else to 'have to do!'  So instead I didn't do anything, I just carried on letting my brain be busy, it doesn't even have to be stuff you have to do, it can be the stuff you want to do, so I'm sat there trying to do a jigsaw with mom thinking I've got to finish that crochet blanket whilst my brain was dancing with other thoughts so I wasn't in the moment at all.  

I don't need to add meditation to the equation, although I can if I want to, see want is a much better word than should which implies something that I feel I have to do rather than want to do.  I could just stop and take a few breathes instead, yep the next time you find yourself thinking, 'this is all just too much, I can't keep up', STOP, and take a few deep breathes.  Honest it automatially calms you a little - really?  Yeah, if you are thinking “this is too much”, your nervous system is in the sympathetic state which means that it is going into a flight or fight reaction.  This means: an increased heart rate and blood pressure; a slowing down of the digestive function; an increase of hormones flooding your system, amongst other things.  But when you purposefully focus on your breath, you stimulate your vagus nerve and activate your parasympathetic nervous system.  When the parasympathetic nervous system is stimulated, it is the perfect counter-balance and your heart rate and blood pressure can slow down and all the other systems of the body can begin to calm.  

Oh and you don't need to undestand any of that, all you need to know is if you stop, breathe and take a moment, consciously breathing in and out, not for very long, just a few breaths can be the perfect reset button and give you just a little space to make sure those plates spin in the right way again.  

Sounds good doesn't it?  I think so, but I've also realised it's time for me to check what's on those plates, whether all of them are necessary, if any of them can be removed or tweaked or if some of them have fallen already but really need putting back on the spinning stick.  

One plate that's not just fallen, I think it's probably smashed, is healthy eating, that's completely gone out of the window, my meals are irregular, not being thought through at all and not balanced either.  I need to get fish and vegetables back into my diet, I need to get my portion sizes back under control and I need to stop thinking, oh it's not important right now - it bloody is!  

So today, I will have my Marlies menu, vegetable koftas for my dinner and I'm going to have a cooked brunch, so lean bacon, tomatoes, mushrooms and eggs with a couple of slices of bread.  I won't need a third meal there, two are plenty.  I'm not hungry now so I'll have the first meal after I've done my virtual workshop this morning.  

I'm going to spend some time thinking about the other plates I'm spinning and see what can be done, some plates you might be spinning could be, health, relationships, friendships, jobs, home, kids, or any area of your life you find yourself thinking about all the time!  

It helps to acknowledge you're not the only one with this problem, hopefully one of those plates has got you and your needs on it, how are you feeling at the minute? Tired? Rundown? Overwhelmed? Short tempered?  Does your plate need attending before you bother with the others?  We all know self care is essential but we still ignore it sometimes, how can you change that?  How do we make healthy habits part of our routine?  This is my plan this afternoon, my dinner only needs warming up so I'm going to check my freezer and cupboards and do a plan for my meals for next week, I'm also going to do a plan to give the house a tidy through, starting with the living room because I can't even contemplate putting any decorations up unless I put it on top of the crap that's already there and that's not gonna happen ;) 

I'm gonna relax too though because that's important too, moms moods and behaviours dictates how and when I do things, but if I have a list of things I want to get done, I can then wait until the times good with mom and choose one thing off the list to get done.  Yeah I need a TO DO list to organise myself. 

Ooo writing this has made me feel better, we are in charge of our own destiny as uncomfortable as that might be sometimes to admit.

Here's to a great Sunday, I look forward to seeing some of you on my virtual workshop this morning 9-10, here's to spinning plates! 

Mwah, luv ya 

Love me xx

Saturday, 28 November 2020

Be a coffee bean!

Saturday 28th November 2020
It's not the load that weighs you down, it's how you carry it.



My mind is full of so much this morning, it was a very, very, long day yesterday, I've not had a lot of sleep and I just need to stop and take a breathe, so I thought I'd share another story with you instead of trying to put it all into words just now. 

Egg, carrot and coffee beans

A young woman struggling with life, went to her mother and told her how her life was just miserable and so hard for her.  She was tired of fighting and struggling with her problems and wanted to give up.

Her mother, without saying much, took the young lady to the kitchen.  She filled three pots with water.  In the first pot, she placed carrots, in the second one she placed eggs, and the last she placed some ground coffee beans.

She let them sit and boil without saying a word to her daughter. The daughter wondered what her mother was trying to do while she was complaining about her life. After some time the mother turned down the burner, fished the carrots and the eggs out and placed them in a bowl.  Then she ladled the coffee out into a cup.  Turning to her daughter, she asked, “Dear, tell me what do you see?”. “A carrot, egg and coffee.” she replied.

“Look closer and feel the carrots” said the mother.  The daughter noted that they were soft.  The mother then asked her to take an egg and break it. The interior of the egg was hard boiled. Finally, she asked her to sip the coffee. Its rich aroma brought a smile to her face
The daughter then asked, “What does this mean, mother?”

All the three items, carrot, egg, and coffee went through the same situation, the boiling water . However, each reacted differently. The carrot was strong, hard, and unrelenting.  However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak.  The egg was fragile with the thin outer shell and its liquid interior.  But after being in the boiling water, it hardened its interior.  The ground coffee beans were unique, as it came to the boiling water, it changed the water and gave its incredible aroma.

“What are you?” she asked the daughter.  “How do you respond in difficult situations?  Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?”

Are you a carrot that seems strong at first, but becomes soft and loses strength in adversity?

Are you an egg that starts with a malleable heart, but hardens with the heat?  Did you have a fluid spirit, but as you struggled with problems, have you become hardened and stiff? Did the problem hardened your free spirit?

Or are you like coffee beans? The beans that change the hot water, the adversity, into an  aromatic drink. If you are like the coffee beans, when things are at their worst, you will get better and change the situation around you.

When the hours are the darkest and trials are the greatest do you elevate to the next level?

Life is full of ups and down, but the only thing that truly matters is how we choose to react to situations around us and what we make out of it. Life is all about learning, adapting and converting all the struggles into something positive.

Remember folks, when it rains, it pours, maybe the art of life is to convert tough times to great experiences: we can choose to hate the rain or dance in it. Which would you rather do? 

Luv ya 

Mwah, love me! 

Friday, 27 November 2020

Reminiscing...

Friday 27th November 2020
It's not the hours you put in, it's what you put into those hours!


My lovely mom slept most of the day yesterday and she finally seemed content so I left her thinking if it meant I was kept awake all night so be it, but thankfully, I was allowed to sleep, only woke me once in the night, then about 5 this morning, I'll take that thank you very much! 

Tier 3 for me then, not that it'll make a lot of difference to our life, but I'm waiting to hear what it means for WW workshops, I will let my members know as soon as I do.  I just want to keep my mom as safe as possible until the vaccination is here, once we've both had that, I'll be happy to go out and do stuff! I haven't spent all these months indoors, to let the last month or so be the death of her!  Death comes to us all I know and to be honest mom's more than ready, she says it often, but not at the hands of Covid, it's a viscious, cruel painful and lonely way to leave this earth!

Anyway, let's change the subject to something more positive, my living rooms starting to look a little christmassy, I have a poinsettia from Angie and a little tree that my sister treated me too.  I also had my advent calender come yesterday, it's huge - open it fills half my window sill, I can't wait to start using it!  It's a crochet society calender, so I'll get my crojo back in December I feel, I'm thinking the first box might be a ball of wool to get me started on a Christmas project - how cool is that!


I had a box of chocolates come from UW yesterday to congralate me on reaching QD, the lockdown meant they'd been delayed but they still tasted amazing, especially as yesterday I'd helped a lovely lady named Lizzy achieve QD too, I love helping people don't I and this is another way to do it, supporting her on her calls, she did amazing yesterday too, did it all and smashed it, she's going to be great at it and help lots of people.  

Can you believe 16 years ago today, I was starting the weekend before I became a WW coach, I remember spending the weekend practising my meeting talk, thinking 'what will I wear', stressing out over whether I'd pass the 'exam' and they'd let me have the badge!  I was starting it as a hobby, planning to do the 2 minimum workshops a week required, one was going to be Essington where I'd gone to lose my weight with mom and my sister, the other one was going to be Bushbury community centre and I was excited, scared, apprehensive but determined and thankfully I passed and the rest as they say is history!  What started as a part time gig, by the June became something I wanted to do full time as I loved it so much and it'd made me realise my full time job was no longer what it had been but I was scared to make that leap, I had to pay the bills and I'd got a pension where I was!  

After a few weeks of battling with myself, taking advice from others and listening to my heart, I finally walked into the MD and handed my notice in, his response was just 'okay'!  Just a number, that's all I was, 11 years I'd worked there and it was over, just like that!  

I remember having debt so feeling I needed to stay doing what I was doing because the WW could only promise me a couple of meetings which wasn't going to cover the bills, but I took a leap of faith and it paid off, by the end of that year I was loving it and got up to 15 meetings!  

Don't be afraid of making changes, if you've lost your job this year, remember you have lots of transferable skills, you don't have to stay in the type of job you're in, you can learn new stuff too. Heck I wanted out of my last job because I hated having to stand up in from of people and do presentatations, yet that's what I do every day as a WW coach, I was terrified the first few times I did it, but it got easier.  

Here I am 16 years later with so many fond memories, having met such incredible people and thankful for being brave enough to say I'd had enough and making that leap of faith!  Everything is sortoutable!

27 days till Christmas, it's getting closer isn't it, obviously we'll be having a very quiet one, but it'll still be relaxing, I've got my delivery slot, just need to buy my normal weekly shop because I've won my dinner and a hamper of goodies, so won't need to spend any more ;) chuffed I am.

Well it's my day off, I've got one call to do, the nurse is coming from the dementia clinic to see mom, then I plan to chill after I've done that and have a relaxing day, maybe do some crochet, I need to finish this blanket I've been doing forever!  

Here's to a good day xx

Mwah, 

Luv me xx