21st
February 2018
The most effective
way to do it, is to do it.
Mmm there’s stuff
going on in my head but I don’t know what to write about, I’m not sure I’ve
processed the thought that woke me up yet, I want to sit on it first I think. I did wake up to a lovely message though, it’s nice to know people care. I
obviously get a different view in my meetings, members are looking towards me
and of course I’m looking towards them, it’s a time when I get to learn so much
from the looks on their faces, communication doesn’t always need to be words,
it’s all in the eyes and yesterday, I wanted to stop talking, grab 3 or 4 of the
ladies in that room and have one big group hug because I could see all the
emotions they were holding in, a good crying hug circle would have done them
the world of good.
We’re always trying
not to cry, to be strong, sod that, I’m all about the blarting these days, it’s
cathartic, I wouldn’t have the urge to cry if there wasn’t a need for me to do
it surely and I find it a relief to get it out, then I’m able to handle the
stuff that’s being thrown at me.
We’re talking about
support in my meetings this week, particularly “Self Support” because you can
get all the support in the world but none of it’s any use if you’re not
supporting yourself.
Heck you don’t just want
to be helped, you want your supporters to stand by your side as you help
yourself. The only person guaranteed to
be there for your entire life is you so you need to learn some coping
strategies.
So that’s what we’re
looking at in my meeting’s, how can you best support yourself on weight loss
journey and of course one of those ways is knowing when to ask for help, when
you need support from others. It’s a
support circle isn’t it? I’m not going
to go too much into it as I want to talk about it in my meetings.
Last night, I had a
member come to my meeting who hadn’t been to me before, we chatted and she said “I’ve
got to do this now”, I challenged that statement, no one has got to do it, there’s
always a choice and I think that’s important to realise, we still have the
power to make our own choices, to behave how we wish to and to be who we want
to. You’re less likely to do something that
you’ve got to do, you’re more likely to do it because you want to do it. Everything starts with WHY.
People are doing things
on a daily basis and few of them know why they do what they do!
Why do you overeat?
Why do you want to
lose weight?
Why do you start the
day on track and finish it with your head in a plate of biscuits?
It isn’t just about deciding
why you want to lose the weight, it’s about working out why you are where you
are right now, what led to these behaviours.
We will continue to repeat what we don’t repair, so is the answer to ‘FIX’
ourselves, or to change ourselves. How
do we change? We sure don’t want to be
focusing all our energy on fighting our old ways, instead let’s focus on creating new ways or habits as we call them.
This blogs a bit all
over the place I think but that’s because there’s so much going on up there in
my head, some of which I want to share in my meetings before I do on my blog,
some of which I’m still trying to process, so I’m going to leave the randomness
here and talk about something that’s clear and good.
We’re having a Coffee
Morning Fundraiser on Saturday, April 21st, 10.00–12.30pm after my
meeting at United Reform Church; Old
Fallings Lane, Wolverhampton, WV10 8BH
Why not join us, take a break from your busy life and
enjoy a natter over a cuppa, indulge in a slice of cake or a savoury snack, buy
some fantastic home baked goodies to enjoy over the weekend from our cake
stall.
Join us to raise funds for the Stroke association and
to get to know some of the people you see briefly in meetings or only know
through facebook. I hope you will, we’re
helping Karen, Pam and Sally and Deanne raise valuable funds for the Stroke
Association. See the event on Facebook
and let us know if you’re coming. We’re
also looking for raffle and tombola prizes, cake or savoury bakers and people
to help out.
Right I’m off to
clean my kitchen, every day it needs doing – I don’t like this adult stuff at
all!
Enjoy your day
BeYOUtiful, mid-week already!
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