16th January 2018
Once you need less you will have more.
What do you need right now?
Now there’s a question, take a few minutes or longer if you
have time to answer that question. It’s
a good question to ask yourself often, I’ll bet the answer isn’t food, even
when you think it is. Usually when we’re
craving food, it’s masking another need.
When I asked myself that question at the start of my typing
the first answer that came to me after sitting here for a few moments was ‘calm’,
that’s my focus for everything these days.
When I’m calm everything is easier to handle. To get to that place of calm, I need balance
in my life which is why I’ve been working on finding it so much.
Alzheimer’s is easier to handle when I’m calm.
Another thing that’s helping with the calm is being clear of
clutter, we’ll leave my office to one side for a moment, but the “stuff” in the
rest of my house is slowing disappearing and more stuff isn’t coming back
in. I actually have empty drawers in my
kitchen and I’m in no rush to fill them.
The less there is in my house, the less messy it gets so the easier it
is to tidy up.
Another way I’m working on the calm is with my decorating, I’ve
got very calm with that too, thinking calm surroundings help with calmness
overall. I plan to do the same with my
garden this year too, calm it right down.
Paint the purple shed brown, fence panels the same. If I feel calm, mom hopefully feels calmer
too, making for a lot less stress for both of us.
Are you struggling to answer the question yourself? Okay maybe answering these questions will help
you with the first one;
- What is going well for you?
- What areas seem to be a struggle for you?
- What is something you have learned lately?
It is a tough question to answer, especially as
sometimes we don’t stop for long enough to figure it out, we think we know
which is why we buy stuff, but the buzz of that stuff lasts moments. I realised at Christmas I didn’t need
anything when I was asked what I wanted.
It’s the same for my birthday, all I want is my friends company.
Stuff / Food, none of it usually gives you what you
really need, so what do you really need right now?
Once you realise what that answer is, maybe as
yourself “How much time and energy are you willing to put into achieving those
needs” and maybe acknowledge how much time and energy you are wasting at the
minute pursuing things you don’t actually need and don’t actually matter?
I’d already been working on finding the ‘calm’ in
my life, last year was hectic in preparation, I know that sounds ridiculous,
but there had to be upheaval to get the wetroom, the new kitchen, the decorating,
the floor but now that’s done, it’s helped to bring that long term calm to my
surroundings.
Since I found that quote ‘We don’t buy things with
money – we buy them with hours from our lives’ on January 1st it’s
really had an impact on me. I’m thinking
before spending, not buying just for the sake of it. Looking at what I spend my money on and
keeping a track of it. The less I spend
the less I need or the more I can save to do the things that I do want/need and
then there’s the future, as much as I try not to think about it, it’s a reality
that needs some consideration.
Anyway, let’s change the subject, we haven’t talked about
food for at least a day, yesterday I had a mushroom omelette because I wanted
to use the mushrooms before they went beyond help, then I nipped for a loaf and
bought this because it was on offer and I’ve been fancying wraps, plus I had
chicken that needed using.
It wasn’t mild at all, I wasn’t impressed, I just managed to
eat mine smothered it with natural yogurt, mom couldn’t manage her it was too
hot for her. Since when had BBQ been
spicy hot?
I’ve got my cottage pie to look forward to today, plus the slow
cooker beef curry which is alright but I wouldn’t buy again. I will use up all the stuff in my kitchen bit
by bit, the old stuff in the food cupboard is being used a bit at a time. I haven’t spent half as much on food over the
last few weeks as I usually do.
Right I better get ready for work, here’s to adding to the
weight loss total.
What do I need right now?
Happy losers on my scales J
Have a terrific Tuesday BeYOUtiful.
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