24th
October 2012
Have compassion for everyone you meet, even if they don't want it.
What appears bad manners, an ill temper or cynicism is always a sign of things
no ears have heard, no eyes have seen. You do not know what wars are going on
down there where the spirit meets the bone. Miller Williams
Sometimes
when I sit down to write my blog I have no idea what I’m going to talk about,
other times there’s something fresh in my memory from the day before, something
that’s happened or been said, then some days there’s lots of things and I don’t
know where to start, today is the later, so I may spread it over a couple of
days ;-) as I appreciate we’re all busy people.
Mom
came to work with me yesterday, first time for a while, she’s in a lot of pain
bless her and every morning she rises feeling nauseous, anyone who’s had
morning sickness knows how dreadful that is, if you’ve had it for 6 years, it
starts to get a little tiresome! Lately
she’s been sitting round until it goes off a bit and I leave her at home as I
go to work, but yesterday she decided she may as well be at work with me
feeling sick as on her own in the house.
It was lovely to see her interacting and laughing with my members and genuinely
looking better in herself than she has for weeks. Consider your options, if you’re in constant
pain do you sit focussing on it, thinking about it all the time or do you
distract yourself? You would be best to
distract yourself. This made me think of
our weight issues are you better to constantly think about dieting all the time
and dwell on how much you have to lose, how long it’s going to take etc, or are
you better distracting yourself from the enormity of it all! Obviously you have to think about food and
what to eat but it doesn’t have to take up every single waking second of your
day! Meal planning for the week is a
good way of getting that problem sorted then you don’t have to think till it’s
time to cook and eat. Just something to
mull over – do you think about it all just a little bit too much?
The
other thing that I noticed on Monday and it happens a lot, because of my job,
because of what I do for a living, people who are overweight and actively NOT
trying to lose it seem to feel the need to explain themselves to me and justify
their decision – I personally don’t care either way, it isn’t for me to live
another persons life or tell them how to behave. However I would like to cover the “fat &
happy” conversation I had on Monday, a lady explained to me that she’s happy,
her weight doesn’t bother her and she used to get obsessed with food when she
was on a diet. She then went on to tell
me that she would have to lose some weight soon because bad knees run in her
family!
Okay so
firstly let’s clear one thing up, being happy is a state of mind – it really
has nothing to do with the size of your body.
Secondly, that means you don’t lose weight to be happy, there are lots
of other reasons for that, health reasons being at the forefront! How you treat your body today will have an
affect on you health and well being in 20 years time. Fat
& happy, isn’t a reason to not lose weight!
And before anyone starts having a go, I know thin people can be
extremely unhealthy, I don’t really think it’s about the size of your body it’s
about the way you treat it and take care of it, I’d rather be bigger and eat
good healthy food than skinny and living on junk. I’m all about healthy eating and moving more
regardless of what the numbers on the scales say.
Read
this then think about how you feel after you’ve read it;
Weak, Disgusted, Hopeless, What’s wrong with
me? What chance do I have? Just stuffing it into my gob!! Someone give me a big kick up the bum! Last weeks big gain was
really unexpected - I didn't want to tell folk how much - such shame. I'm not looking forward to weigh-in tomorrow -
I don't feel any thinner. Been so good all week and gave in to the temptation
of a jam doughnut the night before weigh-in.
A disappointing half off, yes I know it’s off but still disappointing
not sure why it’s also the lightest I have been in months. Didn't post on
Monday as so embarrassed was off track big time and gained 4.5!! I'm just rubbish :( Absolute
waste of time. Weekend was a nightmare.
Totally over my dailies and my weeklies but there was no stopping me!!! I totally lost the plot yesterday and ate and
drank anything and everything. I just
don't see how I couldn’t have lost :(
How’d
you feel? Just imagine having regular
conversations like that with someone you love, a child or a best friend, every
day once or twice at least saying something like, “you’re weak, I’m disgusted
with you!” or “What chance have you got – you’re hopeless”. Maybe you could say, “You only lost half a
pound, that’s rubbish”, “What were you thinking eating a jam doughnut, what’s
wrong with you, I’m disappointed”.
You
get my drift yet? It’s not very
encouraging is it? Hopefully you wouldn’t
say it to someone you love, yet so many of you say these things to yourself
(all that paragraph is full of actual statements made by real people about
themselves – the names have been removed to protect the innocent x). So why do you say those things to yourself,
if you’re not saying them out loud you may be thinking them which is equally as
bad. No one gets very far without love
and support (that’s what makes Weight Watchers the success it is – group support). New born babies die without love – did you
know that? The one thing to guarantee
you more chance of success is a bit of self love! That’s the whole basis of my website, www.happyowls.co.uk, so if you’re guilty
of any of that, how about STOP, stop judging yourself for what you weigh, for
what you eat. Hell if you want a jam doughnut
the night before weigh-in that’s absolutely fine, they’re about 7pp and
delicious, they don’t weigh that heavy in your tummy either – honest.
Start
noticing the words you use when thinking about yourself, make them more
positive you’re not weak or hopeless for having a day where you go over you’re ProPoints,
you’re strong for being on a weight loss healthy eating plan to start
with. You’re not to be disgusted with yourself
over what you eat, it’s not like you’ve slept with your 99 year old neighbour
whilst your hubby was at work! Losing
the plot and overeating, gaining weight, it’s all part of life but it isn’t the
end of the world and it isn’t the end of your weight loss efforts, it’s just
another day at the office of the healthy eater.
My
personal experience and I can only talk about my experiences of course,
although I do know others who have found the same, is that since I decided to
be nicer to myself, forgive myself when I did overindulge and also to give
myself permission to do just that and to eat whatever I wanted whenever has
meant I don’t do it so much, I don’t need to because I can have chocolate
whenever I want, it isn’t a no-no, I can have MacDonalds and not feel shame
that I’ve just eaten my daily allowance in one meal, I can have cake for
breakfast if I want to. Do I do this
everyday – nope, why not? Because I’m taking care of this body now so it takes
care of me years down the line.
Have
a great day gorgeous, go start it with a cup of self love x
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