25th July 2011
Someone's sitting in the shade today because
someone planted a tree a long time ago. Warren Buffet
What a marvellous Monday morning, it’s my idea of a perfect
morning out there today, the sky looks amazing, not a soul to be seen and Alfie
behaving on the park, even if his latest pastime is chasing seagulls, he’ll
never catch on so I can rest in that knowledge.
Here’s a minute of what it’s like to be over the park on a beautiful day
and have it all to yourself, I tend to just stand and watch the sky – it’s kind
of meditative. Play the video and just
sit and gaze, empty your mind – it’s only a minute.
The weekend seems to have flown by even though I did absolutely
nothing yesterday besides watch a lot of tv and eat a few more ProPoints that I
should so I’m hoping for a stay the same on the scales this morning. On a positive I’m still off the wine, even
ordered diet coke when my mate ordered a glass of shiraz on Saturday in London,
I just didn’t see the point of wasting 6pp on a drink when I was planning on
walking the afternoon around London.
I was just reading a blog by Sara Cox, I like to listen to her a
lot on the radio and in this blog she’s talking about the 9 things you should
never say to your kids and she’d read it in someone elses article and it got me
to thinking how did these things being said to us when we were kids really
affect us now? The first one “Leave me
alone” (or “I’m busy”), apparently makes your kids think you there’s no point
in talking to you because you’re always brushing them off”, instead apparently
you should say something like, “Mom has to finish this one thing, then when I’m
done, we’ll go outside”. Mmm, do I
agree? I dunno, I’m not a mom but I did
once have my 5 year old nephew live with me for a while when his mom was
struggling and my brother was abroad so I’ve had a mini insight into it,
although for a month it’s a novelty I suppose, just the same as helping to
entertain my mates kids for a few hours on a Friday is too. It’s easy to give kids your undivided
attention when you know you’re giving them back at some stage, it’s not so easy
when you’ve got that much to do you don’t know which way to turn. I don’t doubt my mom used to say “I’m busy”,
a lot but I don’t think it had a lasting effect, nor do I remember thinking she
hadn’t got time for me.
However, the "Why Can't You
Be More Like Your Sister?" or brother or whoever line, now that one I
agree with, how many of you have felt resentful of a sibling or friend because
of a comment like that, or just felt that you weren’t good enough? Nobody needs to be like anyone other than
themselves and if we had all been told that when we were kids, some of us might
not be so screwed up, one of my favourite sayings is, “You’re perfect to be
you”, yes always tell your kids they are perfect as they are, as long as
they’re encouraged to do their best then they’ll be just fine, we will too, so
remember just do your best and you’ll be good enough.
And the last one that caught my eye was, “Don’t cry”, WHY NOT! If we cried more often, or expressed our
emotions instead of squashing them down with a doughnut we wouldn’t be the
nation of comfort eaters we are. How
many of you remember, “don’t be such a big baby”? WHY NOT!
Seriously, what’s wrong with being emotional, what’s wrong with crying
it’s only the opposite of laughing and we all do that? Unfortunately people are afraid of showing
negative emotions because we were taught not to, it’s okay to be angry, as long
as you express it in the right way, it’s fine to say to someone, “I’m angry
with you because…”, it’s not ok to say I’m angry with you and punch them! Of course you want to protect your child from
having negative feelings or being upset but it’s part of being human, so next
time they cry, or get afraid, explain to them that it’s ok to be sad or
scared. Wouldn’t it be great if when you
come home from work furious at your boss instead of walking to find comfort in
the fridge your other half say’s, “You look angry, wanna talk about it”, or if
you picked up the phone to have a chat about it with a friend. Think
of the ProPoints you’d save!
Today, enjoy the sunshine, even if it is only through the office
window and decide to express your feeling no matter what, (in an adult way of
course) ;D
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