13th
December 2014
Hope
but never expect, look forward but never wait.
I slept like a blocked up baby thanks to Night Nurse, so
I’ve had a good rest at least, and I’m sat here in my bed on my laptop because my
pc had gone to the computer doctor to be fixed or laid to rest whichever is
necessary! I just can’t cope with the
slowness of it any more, I can go make a cuppa whilst I’m waiting for it to
work, I’ve had enough of its “not responding” messages, so it’s being looked
at. Looking like a new one may be my Christmas
pressie to me though.
Once I’d had my conference call at noon yesterday, I turned
all the work stuff off and spent the afternoon with my mom, brother and his
wife, we’ve not seen them since last Christmas so it was lovely to catch up,
they’re coming back Monday for a few days (they’re spending the weekend
partying with their friends). It becomes
a very noisy house when you get a few Longsden’s together, I have to admit!
Now one thing I have noticed the last few days is there
seems to be a lot of self doubt, maybe a little self loathing and a general
unhappiness in some when they come to get ready for their Christmas parties
because they ‘feel fat’ or similar thoughts because they’re clothes don’t
fit. I think sometimes on these occasions
we’re suddenly aware of our bodies because we maybe are putting on different
clothes to what we’d normally wear and we’re outside our comfort zone. It’s maybe more a self confidence thing, so
possibly we start focusing on our body and how it looks rather than admitting to
ourselves that we’re a little be overwhelmed by the fact we’re going out with
lots of people we may or may not know well.
I can only talk from my experience and I know when I go
out with my bestie I don’t even think about how I look half of the time and if I
do its only to make sure I don’t look ridiculous and I’m passable. Whereas when I’m doing something that isn’t
in my comfort zone like a conference or a big party I would be much likely to
have the meltdown, what am I going to wear, I look huge, I’ve gained lots of
weight, blah blah blah. I’m not so bad
these days because I have learned to see past all that and see the real me who
I’ve accepted but those thoughts still trys to rear their ugly head. I know the other week when we did the conference
I had a mini panic when I thought to myself “I’ve put so much weight on,
everyone will notice, I’m fat blah blah”, luckily I remembered feeling a
million dollars at the conference the year before, I’d worn a tartan dress and
I felt really confident and good in it.
So I checked back at my weigh card and I was only about 3lb
different! So I thought to myself what
had changed, the thoughts in my head mostly was the true answer, I thought my
body has changed shape I reckon, so I tried on the dress that I had worn a year
ago and it still fit, it was possibly a bit tighter but not much. So that just shows the power of the mind and
you know what even if that dress hadn’t fit me, I’d still lived the last 9
months happy with going out every day dressed in whatever I’d chose for all to
see me without stressing over what I looked like and what people would
think. That confirmed it wasn’t my body
that was the problem it was my mind!
Yes we want to lose weight and get to a size we’re happy
with, not a size that others dictate we should be can I add but if whilst we’re
on that journey we’re supportive and loving of ourselves we’re more likely to
achieve that than if we give ourselves a hard time, stay home feeling bad and
inevitably end up overeating because we’re sad.
Life sometimes gets in the way, I believe that and I tell
my members that constantly, it doesn’t give us an excuse to just think “sod it”
and overeat all the time but it does help to explain why we maybe haven’t done
as well as we’d like. And by ‘life’ I
mean so many different things for different people, what seems nothing to one
person can be a massive deal to another.
So don’t ever compare yourself and your journey to another’s, you’re writing
different chapters in a different book.
A comment I read on facebook yesterday said, “I'm a stone heavier than I was last
Christmas, I've been out more times in the last couple of months than I've been
in my life because you know what you only get one shot at this life malarkey
and it's for living whatever size you are!”
Now the lady who wrote that is BeYOUtiful and it took a near death
experience to give her that perspective on life, you don’t need to wait until
it’s too late for you to realise you’re just incredible and your friends love
you whatever size you are, if they don’t they’re not actually real
friends.
The most beautiful curve on a woman is her smile, never
forget that!
So let’s all agree to enjoy this holiday season, go out
and have fun, be gentle on yourself, eat, drink and be merry when the opportunity
arises as long as you’re enjoying it.
Don’t eat for the sake of eating because you feel miserable or because
its there. This healthy and happy life
we strive for is all about balance, it’s important to see your own inner
wonderful just as everyone else does.
What exactly is this thing called beauty, you've only got to look at couples to see we all see something different in each other, what one finds
incredible another would think ‘nah!’ thankfully that’s the way it is otherwise
we’d all be after the same. In my
opinion what’s on the inside is so much more attractive than anything on the
outside, we can wrap ourselves up in pretty clothes, colour our hair, paint our
faces but if you’re ugly inside none of
that will ever make a difference.
So go to the mirror, look at that BeYOUtiful person
looking back at you and say “I love you, you’re everything I need right now at
this moment in time and I’m going to take care of you by loving you and taking
care of you in a healthy way.”
Have a great day. xx
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