SMILE
and be happy, the day is brand new. This is the day the universe made for YOU!
Two of my members – Lynne and
Gemma - achieved their goal weights yesterday and went home with the exclusive
gold membership pack and Alison achieved her 50lb certificate, a total of 229lb
lost yesterday at Willenhall, which shows that the weight loss continues.
Do you have or have you ever
suffered from the BUT Syndrome? It’s a
terrible affliction and one I see quite often at the scales, if I’m attempting
to help a member at the scales find a solution to their weight loss problem and
I hear the word ‘BUT’ or ‘HOWEVER’ I automatically know they have either not
listened to me, don’t agree with what I’ve said or is going to ignore
completely what I’ve just said! Think
about this, I can only make suggestions for solutions, the only person who
knows the real solution is you, so say to yourself, okay this is my problem,
how do I solve it? You won’t say ‘BUT’
to yourself or maybe you will!
Are you guilty of being able to
think of more excuses and reasons not to be able to lose weight, than solutions
and reasons to lose weight? How
important is weight loss to you? There
have been times in my life when it was all that mattered and there have been
times when I didn’t give two hoots about how much I weighed. I have to say neither extreme made me happy,
but this middle ground I’ve discovered works just fine and keeps me smiling, I
want to be healthy and a reasonable weight but it’s not the only thing that
matters in my life, good friends, good company, good food, fine wine and a walk
in the park with my dog are just as important.
If you don’t find a balance you’ll never be happy, obsessing constantly
about your weight and getting upset over it is just as unhealthy as eating as
much as possible and gaining.
Our weight doesn’t make us
unhappy, we do, remember it’s a choice, that’s why you can go from happy to
miserable or angry or any other emotion in a split second, that’s why someone
can walk towards my scales smiling and as soon as they’ve seen the numbers on
the scales they get upset, they’re weight didn’t change in that moment, its
just that their minds have suddenly chose to acknowledge the fact and get upset
about it. I missed one particular member
yesterday, she didn’t come to get weighed (you know who you are) and I had a
feeling it wouldn’t be long before she missed a meeting because she was giving
the scales and those numbers too much power over her, it was all about the
numbers (and lets be honest it is for the majority of us, even me at times). Unfortunately if you give them that much
power, they can take over, instead focus on eating healthy and feeling better
and then the weight loss is a side effect and a very nice one too.
It’s not just weight, it’s anything
that happens in your life, for example as I’m typing my internets gone down,
now I could get really stressed about that because if it doesn’t come back on I’m
not going to be able to post my blog before I go to work, or I can just
continue typing and believe it will come back on and if that’s not before I
leave for work, then I’ll post the blog later.
If you’re an emotional eater that
situation might send you to the kitchen looking for something to pre-occupy
you, heading to the kitchen strikes quite often for a lot of us, especially in
the evenings when you’re sat in front of the tv, maybe you’re bored or tired or
lonely or even happy because you’ve had a fabulous day. It’s often suggested that when that moment
strikes you distract yourself by finding something else to do, this is one
option but it does avoid facing the problem.
Why not try ‘The Amber Light’ idea, we know red is for stop and green is
for go, but Amber is that moment in-between.
When you reach that moment when
you suddenly want something and you know you’re not hungry, you can choose to
have something to eat or you can take a moment to try and break that automatic
response by thinking about why you want it.
Firstly acknowledge the urge to eat has been caused by something other than hunger, and decide (on this occasion,
just once) to wait for a short time.
Make a decision how long we are willing to wait with whatever is causing
your craving to eat, even if it’s only a minute, it’ll give you time to think. Time it on your watch or using the clock on
the mantel piece and for that time, experience your feelings and any emotions
that may come up. Notice any physical sensations you may have or any thoughts. Finally promise yourself that if we still
want to eat it you can but acknowledge it won’t make any difference to how you’re
feeling at that time. Who knows it might
be all you need to stop you on that occasion.
xx
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