Trust me - you look good!

29^th July 2017

If it makes you happy, no one else’s opinion should matter.

Eggy bread, such a simple, cheap, tasty breakfast, I really enjoyed it yesterday morning, I used a pan liner in the pan to save making the washing up hard work too.  Lunch was a good chicken sausage sandwich, I will definitely be doing another Penn Road butchers shop when my kitchens sorted and my new fridge/freezer in place - they really are good sausages!   For my tea, I did food in 15 (minutes that is!), a jar of Asda’s cheap curry sauce with chicken thrown in and microwave brown rice.

I had planned a No Count day but ended up cleaning out a kitchen cupboard as my mates chap let me know he’s got 3 days off next week so could get started, by the time I’d finished messing about I hadn’t got time to cook, not forgetting I hadn’t got all the ingredients I needed, no onions even.  I really do need to shop but I’m not going to do anything to ‘big’ because I want my kitchen as empty as possible to make his job easier.

I was hoping for a dry weekend to empty my shed and sort but it’s not forecast, so that might have to wait another week, I’m sure I won’t find it difficult to find other things to do, there’s always something to do in the house isn’t there.  I loved Gogglesproggs the kids one last night when one of them said, "The thing about cleaning is you're taking dirt out to make room for more dirt!" The kid makes sense, a whole lot of sense!

Can’t we be self-conscious creatures, worrying what others might think or say, have you ever stopped to wonder why?  How do we disarm that inner critic and decrease those feeling of self-consciousness?   Start by working out what we’re actually self-conscious about, then challenge those negative thoughts.  So many people worry about their weight and how they look, so dress in certain ways but trust me, you can look fabulous at any weight – you don’t have to live in black smocks!   Here’s just a few photos off the internet proving my point!  These ladies are all outside their ‘BMI’, they look incredible to me!

Think about it for a moment, self-consciousness usually stems from us worrying that others will confirm our negative self-take or fixate on those things that we already feel insecure.   If you’re listening to your negative thoughts about you being overweight and someone tells you that you should think about losing a few pounds, your negative thoughts have already convinced you that being overweight is wrong or bad – is it?  Then the comment has backed up your negativity and now you feel even more self-conscious!   What’s right or wrong, good or bad – who decides that?  Erm when it comes to my body – I do, not some damn chart or opinion from someone else who has no right to tell me what I ‘should’ be!

So challenge those thoughts of yours, I do mine, I put a sleeveless blouse on the other day and I didn’t like that I could see that bit of skin under your arm, I thought it didn’t look nice and spoilt the outfit, then I looked at myself in the mirror and said ‘really! Get a grip, everyone has that bit under their arm, it’s part of your body, now love it and move your ass, you’re gonna be late for work!”  No one commented on my underarm and if they had, I’d have said, ‘do you have nothing better to focus on than my armpit – sad times!2

Never forget that your inner critic, the nasty voice in your head is not a good or reliable voice to be listening too, it’s not the voice of reality so start telling it, ‘whatever!’

People really aren’t paying that much attention to you as your insecure, self-conscious you thinks, they are, they’re too busy listening to their own negative thoughts!   We all have things that make us BeYOUtiful, we all have what some people call faults, I’ll go with characteristics, I don’t think any of us are flawed, we’re all BeYOUtiful and meant to be the way we are.

You can become more confident, trust me I did, I used to criticise every inch of me, I never quite good enough and even if I did within an hour, my hair wouldn’t look as good anymore and I’d be conscious of that.  Now, I’ve realised nobodies hair looks perfect all the time, actually so people do and I find it infuriating that they manage it ;) but if you look hard enough there will be something that’s not quite right about them, I can’t be bothered to do that because it’s not necessary to make yourself feel better by finding fault with others.

Yeah give yourself a break, you wouldn’t pull someone else’s appearance apart with such savageness – I hope you wouldn’t anyway and if you would, you seriously need to check yourself.    If someone else gives you a hard time, challenge them, stand up for yourself.  Accept your worth, you are amazing.

Now go have an epic day BeYOUtiful!